Some good suggestions so far. If you want great personal service I'd highly recommend Artdrum.com. Greg is fantastic, and his prices are as good as you'll find. The key is to find what you want on the Mid-East website, such as that drum in the link, then email Greg with the part number. He charges 75% of the Mid-East price, and ships for free. It's hard to be sure you're getting great quality unless you can play it first, but Mid-East's return policy is very good, so even if you get a lemon, they'll replace it. If it were me, and your budget is under $150, I'd get the Alexandria with the Skyndeep head on it. Cost you $112.50 from Greg, and with that head, it will sound great. Or for about $75 you can get the blemished one and buy the Skyndeep head for it, if you think you can put it on okay.

While the Remo Ergo Doumbeks are good sounding and very durable, they are a little light in your lap and will set you back about $200, maybe a little more if you want one that doesn't have that funky faux finish. If you're going to spend that kind of money, you may as well get a nice mother of pearl Gawharet. As for the size, stick with something that has 8 5/8 head and is at least 16 1/2 tall. Unless you have an extremely short torso, anything smaller is going to be awkward, imo. Good luck!